Wednesday Woe with Wanda Worstwagger – How To Help

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By Wanda Worstwagger
Advice columnist (sort of)
12/11/2013

 

 

 

Dear Wanda,

I have a friend who’s having a really hard time right now.  Money is tight and her kids are having their own teenage trials.  I know she’s struggling.  I want to be supportive and help out, but I don’t know what would be the most beneficial.  I live far away, so it isn’t like I can drop by for tea.  Any ideas on how I can support my friend as she’s going through these tough times?

Concerned

Dear Concerned,

What a lovely friend you are. This is a sticky problem. When my friends go through tough times what I want to do is solve all their problems for them, and maybe take my shovel to the back of a husband’s head. But unfortunately it isn’t that easy to solve other people’s problems, heck, I can’t even solve my own.

The best you can do is to listen to your friends troubles and try not to judge her when she doesn’t handle things the way you may. It sometimes takes a long time for people to get their lives back on track and having a non-judgemental friend you can bitch to is very helpful for relieving tension. At least it works for me.

You sound like a lovely friend, I’m sure you wouldn’t judge anyone based on how screwed up their life is! Keep in contact with your friend. I’m sure she would appreciate that very much.

Have a wonderful Holiday Season!

Wanda

 

Dear reader,

I hope you have a lovely December. If you have a question for me click here. Comments go below.

Love,

Wanda

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Skye December 12, 2013 at 3:06 am

Awesome advice! I, too, have a couple of friends who live far from me who I wish I could help. I remind them that I am available for talking or texting etc., but don’t want to intrude. I know how much of a burden it is to make the effort to reach out when our lives are extremely challenging, so I don’t want to put that extra burden on them. I know from experience how helpful it can be to just have people I can vent to or shoulders to cry on.

FGBVs to Concerned, her friend, and to our dear Wanda! Happy holidays!

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Toni / blonde Betty December 11, 2013 at 9:19 pm

You give good advice!

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