You know I don’t get political or controversial here very often. I don’t like conflict, and flaming and hate mongering. My goal in life is mostly to make you laugh, to give you a few minutes away from this world in a place where the heroine is even more flawed than we are.
However, it’s also not often that I read a blog post that makes me cry. I got directed to Jane Devin’s Blog via Betty Fokker on Facebook.
Yes, I know that I tend to be overly empathetic, and those of you who know me well may know that one of my beloved cousins is gay – and has dealt with prejudice his entire adult life. A sweeter and more compassionate person you will never find. He should not have to deal with this kind of hate mongering either. (For those of you who are wondering – I’m very fond of all my cousins. I come from the best family ever, a better group of crazy, fun, loving, diverse people you’ll ever find. Much like your families! I love all my people, not just the gay ones.)
Okay, back on track. The first blog post of Devin’s I read was Being Gay in Tucson Hurts. She talks about driving down the street and seeing the huge line at the Chicken restaurant which shall forever remain unnamed, because they don’t deserve my publicity. It was so hurtful for her to see the many, many cars supporting anti-gay sentiment. And it made me weep.
Then I looked at the pictures Devin posted in a subsequent post: Here’s How I See It, and I thought, I have to speak out. I can’t let this go unremarked. I have a responsibility to speak out against hate mongering and mindless jumping on the wagon. (That wasn’t very eloquent, but you know what I mean. If you don’t, ask.)
And here is my question (which I will probably regret asking):
How is my cousin or Jane Devin or anyone else being gay harming you? Why does it matter to you if they are able to marry the one they love? So you believe that love should only exist between a man and a woman. Great. That’s fine. I’m not telling you what to believe. What I’m saying is that love DOES exist between women and women, men and men, men and women. That covers it, at least in regards to gender. If I’ve left anyone out, I apologize, it’s only due to ignorance and not because I don’t accept your right to love and be loved.
Back to you, Chicken Restaurant People: Gay people are not hurting you. They are different than you are, yes. But look around there are lots of differences in the world. It makes for some lovely diversity. You are more like the “other” than you are different. Take a look at your DNA. Human wants, needs and desires are not that diverse. The basic requirements for life and happiness remain the same.
Please tell me: How are they hurting you? What right do you have to hurt them?
Disclaimer: I am not the most eloquent person in the world. If I’ve stated something in a way that is offensive to you, let me know. I may be willing to correct it when I understand your side of things. But then again, I may not. The only way to find out is to have a conversation with me.
Man, I hate conflict. I sure hope I don’t regret posting this. Wait. No. I had to post it. I have to stand against hate. It’s my moral responsibility. Now I have to do my best to remain strong.